Posts Tagged ‘love’

One question that I see popping up all the time is, “I like this person who doesn’t like me, what should I do?” I feel sympathetic because I have been in that situation. It’s nice to know that I am not alone in this. The only thing I could do is make my feelings known. Beyond that, there seems to be no way to make the feelings reciprocate. If anyone has the magical solution to make this work, let me know. Also, if you could include Jessica Simpsons phone number I may be able to put this magical spell to good use.

The real question here is “Do you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?” That’s not a pleasant road to be on because it’s very one sided and a lot of work for you. I found myself constantly vying for this persons attention because they just didn’t think about me as often as I was thinking about them. It became a very unfair playing ground, making someone a priority in my life when I was simply an option to them.

I also found myself to be completely and exclusively devoted to this so called relationship. I was oblivious to any other possible relationship prospects at the time. Instead, choosing to remain committed to someone who wasn’t even remotely committed to me. I was hardly being fair to myself or anyone who may have been more worthy of my attention.

I’m a little ashamed to admit that I wasn’t even being myself. I was constantly morphing myself into what or who I thought this person wanted. Thinking, quite possibly, if I changed myself enough I could have what I originally wanted. The truth of the matter was that I had gotten so far away from reality that what I wanted had even changed. The only constant was the “Who” I wanted but I had no real clue as to why.

Is it really love if it is not returned or is it trying to force your will onto someone else? It doesn’t sound like love to me to try to control the way that a person acts, what they like or who they are. Especially if it means trying to keep up an acting job just to be with the person you think you want.


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